Crazy Cycle

Great passage from Love & Respect by DR. Emmerson Eggergichs

"A husband is to obey the command to lvoe even if his wife does not obey this command to respect, and a wife is to obey the command to respect even if the husband does not obey the command to love." - Ephesians 5:33

So far, so good. Reasoning further: "A husband is even called to love a disrespectful wife, and a wife is called to respect an unloving husband. There is no justification for a husband to say, 'I will love my wife after she respects me' nor for a wife to say, 'I will respect my husband after he loves me.'"

Without love, she reacts without respect. Wihtout respect, he reacts without love. Thus was born the Crazy Cycle!


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Getting on the crazy cycle is all too easy. Recognizing that you'r eon the Crazy Cycle and learning how to keep it from spinning aout of control is possible if husband and wife can learn how to meet each other's basic needs for love and respect.

It is about the wife being willing to treat her husband respectfully without conditions. No matter if he deserves it or not. They key to creating fond feelings of love in a husband toward his wife is through showing him unconditional love.

What do I say? These days people are way too preoccupied with getting what they want, what they think they deserve, what they don't want, instead of focusing more on becoming someone who will make another one happy, and becoming what they want and need. If there is a crazy cycle, can't we start a love action reaction cycle?

It makes sense to think that your reaction to someone's action may be just as hurtful to them, if not more, than how much they upset you originally. Is this really a way to live life.. to get back, to get revenge, to react in an unloving, disrespectul way and expect the person who hurt you orinally to react in a loving way to you? It's like offering brass knucles to Mother Theressa! (taken from Love & Respect)

We are all tired of being hurt, and want to stop being the ones to step out and be "the bigger person". To be happy in life, sometimes that is exactly what you got to do. To go against your own natural, human, intuition, reaction, personality, and follow the Word.

Can you imagine if we really got what we deserve? Remember that time you flipped off that old lady in her boat of a car, driving like her life depends on it..the time you were rude to a waiter because of a simply mistake he made. What do you deserve now...

We all want the best for ourselves, it is only people like Mother Theressa who has reached that higher level, that most of us will never even understand. The rest of us, will continue to find reasons to complain; the empty coffee pot in the common break room. Easier to process then to do.. as so many other things in life.

I shall now go and practice. Over and over.. and over.. and over again.

-O