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August 17, 2010

Just tell 'em

I am completely aware of the fact that my writing reads too much like a cross between a poem and a pamphlet. However, my aspiring spirit to relay my pile of words has received very little rejection. I do realize I would never make it in the cruel world of freelance journalism or CEO of communications of a fortune 500 company; therefore I will squash my own dream and file that illusion amongst my other unattainable chronicles right between riding a crotch rocket and being a billionaire.
A recent lesson I have learned about communication has changed my opinion and about every element in me. Honesty is not the best policy especially when it comes down to climbing the corporate latter. Kissing the giant ass and throwing around colorful flatteries is the best policy. Voicing your views with a boss who has an enormous ego will only get you in trouble and make you an outcast. Being righteous and doing the right thing isn’t going to bring home the bacon, but make you more or less … “self-employed.” How do you outlast a coworker who is a cross breed of troll and lumber jack, that grunts and farts while limping down the halls? How do you win the heart of a person who is so narrow minded and so set in their ways they can’t see anything past their perception even if their live depended on it?
Another interesting thing I ran across was how much physical communication matters. During my fabulous weekend when I got to ride a stallion on the beautiful windy beaches of Oregon, I felt a feeling that I haven’t yet discovered. I don’t know what to name the feeling, but I can taste it, smell it and can definitely feel the reactive emotions it evoke in me. During the last few minutes of our excursion the horses we were riding got spooked by a flag flapping in the wind and began galloping for their lives while we were left holding on to ours. I felt regret and resentment towards my lack of enthusiasm for life and my ignorance towards the ample and fruitful opportunities I closed my eyes on.
I guess you can call that a near failure experience. I know this derivative comes exactly from my fear of speaking up for myself and the fear of rejection about what I have to say, and of course the fear of failure. I haven’t figured out the check list material and the exact corrective measures I’m going to have to take to attain my bliss, however I must say I’m quite proud of myself about the last few decisions I have made that I wouldn’t have in the past.
I ignored my natural reserved and introverted behavior that I have been practicing to avoid mistakes and things that would taint my future, and did what made me happy at the moment. I did not regret one bit about speaking my mind (of course my spontaneous front foot forward was the best and appropriate versions) I did accept invitations to hang out with individuals’ of a different status (meaning I was to shy to be around him) acted totally impulsive and totally loved it. And I might add that he loved it too as we ended up cuddling by the end of the night with out any intensions, pretensions or any agenda that was preset or set forth because we were both living in the moment and just plainly enjoyed each others company. Let me clean this up a bit and tie it with the importance of communication peace. In this specific transaction I thought like a generous woman with out any intensions. I asked about the handsome individuals’ day, paid him compliments with my words with my eyes and with my touch. It’s a woman’s job to know how to speak with any person, they way someone will reciprocate, retain or react to the information. In this case I had to know and understand they way he wanted to be complimented, looked at gazed at, talked to and touched, where to place my hand, my fingers, how to hold, how long to hold and so fourth. The way I look at him when I spoke, the way my body moves when I receive his response. The words of choice I used were specifically precise to know what type of impression or perception it will evolve, meaning if it will induce attraction, bliss, pleasure, interest, meaning, happiness and on. So you see if you want to live a very self-actualized and happy life you must learn the way to communicate just right. Of course with an occasional mistake or an error we all must practice how to communicate our wants and needs effectively using our senses, and if you want to have the results you want be sure to; smell them, touch them, mostly listen to them, see them for who they are and if you are lucky taste them when they let you. Bon appétit. – Love Jewels

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