Crazy Cycle

Great passage from Love & Respect by DR. Emmerson Eggergichs

"A husband is to obey the command to lvoe even if his wife does not obey this command to respect, and a wife is to obey the command to respect even if the husband does not obey the command to love." - Ephesians 5:33

So far, so good. Reasoning further: "A husband is even called to love a disrespectful wife, and a wife is called to respect an unloving husband. There is no justification for a husband to say, 'I will love my wife after she respects me' nor for a wife to say, 'I will respect my husband after he loves me.'"

Without love, she reacts without respect. Wihtout respect, he reacts without love. Thus was born the Crazy Cycle!


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Getting on the crazy cycle is all too easy. Recognizing that you'r eon the Crazy Cycle and learning how to keep it from spinning aout of control is possible if husband and wife can learn how to meet each other's basic needs for love and respect.

It is about the wife being willing to treat her husband respectfully without conditions. No matter if he deserves it or not. They key to creating fond feelings of love in a husband toward his wife is through showing him unconditional love.

What do I say? These days people are way too preoccupied with getting what they want, what they think they deserve, what they don't want, instead of focusing more on becoming someone who will make another one happy, and becoming what they want and need. If there is a crazy cycle, can't we start a love action reaction cycle?

It makes sense to think that your reaction to someone's action may be just as hurtful to them, if not more, than how much they upset you originally. Is this really a way to live life.. to get back, to get revenge, to react in an unloving, disrespectul way and expect the person who hurt you orinally to react in a loving way to you? It's like offering brass knucles to Mother Theressa! (taken from Love & Respect)

We are all tired of being hurt, and want to stop being the ones to step out and be "the bigger person". To be happy in life, sometimes that is exactly what you got to do. To go against your own natural, human, intuition, reaction, personality, and follow the Word.

Can you imagine if we really got what we deserve? Remember that time you flipped off that old lady in her boat of a car, driving like her life depends on it..the time you were rude to a waiter because of a simply mistake he made. What do you deserve now...

We all want the best for ourselves, it is only people like Mother Theressa who has reached that higher level, that most of us will never even understand. The rest of us, will continue to find reasons to complain; the empty coffee pot in the common break room. Easier to process then to do.. as so many other things in life.

I shall now go and practice. Over and over.. and over.. and over again.

-O

Just tell 'em

I am completely aware of the fact that my writing reads too much like a cross between a poem and a pamphlet. However, my aspiring spirit to relay my pile of words has received very little rejection. I do realize I would never make it in the cruel world of freelance journalism or CEO of communications of a fortune 500 company; therefore I will squash my own dream and file that illusion amongst my other unattainable chronicles right between riding a crotch rocket and being a billionaire.
A recent lesson I have learned about communication has changed my opinion and about every element in me. Honesty is not the best policy especially when it comes down to climbing the corporate latter. Kissing the giant ass and throwing around colorful flatteries is the best policy. Voicing your views with a boss who has an enormous ego will only get you in trouble and make you an outcast. Being righteous and doing the right thing isn’t going to bring home the bacon, but make you more or less … “self-employed.” How do you outlast a coworker who is a cross breed of troll and lumber jack, that grunts and farts while limping down the halls? How do you win the heart of a person who is so narrow minded and so set in their ways they can’t see anything past their perception even if their live depended on it?
Another interesting thing I ran across was how much physical communication matters. During my fabulous weekend when I got to ride a stallion on the beautiful windy beaches of Oregon, I felt a feeling that I haven’t yet discovered. I don’t know what to name the feeling, but I can taste it, smell it and can definitely feel the reactive emotions it evoke in me. During the last few minutes of our excursion the horses we were riding got spooked by a flag flapping in the wind and began galloping for their lives while we were left holding on to ours. I felt regret and resentment towards my lack of enthusiasm for life and my ignorance towards the ample and fruitful opportunities I closed my eyes on.
I guess you can call that a near failure experience. I know this derivative comes exactly from my fear of speaking up for myself and the fear of rejection about what I have to say, and of course the fear of failure. I haven’t figured out the check list material and the exact corrective measures I’m going to have to take to attain my bliss, however I must say I’m quite proud of myself about the last few decisions I have made that I wouldn’t have in the past.
I ignored my natural reserved and introverted behavior that I have been practicing to avoid mistakes and things that would taint my future, and did what made me happy at the moment. I did not regret one bit about speaking my mind (of course my spontaneous front foot forward was the best and appropriate versions) I did accept invitations to hang out with individuals’ of a different status (meaning I was to shy to be around him) acted totally impulsive and totally loved it. And I might add that he loved it too as we ended up cuddling by the end of the night with out any intensions, pretensions or any agenda that was preset or set forth because we were both living in the moment and just plainly enjoyed each others company. Let me clean this up a bit and tie it with the importance of communication peace. In this specific transaction I thought like a generous woman with out any intensions. I asked about the handsome individuals’ day, paid him compliments with my words with my eyes and with my touch. It’s a woman’s job to know how to speak with any person, they way someone will reciprocate, retain or react to the information. In this case I had to know and understand they way he wanted to be complimented, looked at gazed at, talked to and touched, where to place my hand, my fingers, how to hold, how long to hold and so fourth. The way I look at him when I spoke, the way my body moves when I receive his response. The words of choice I used were specifically precise to know what type of impression or perception it will evolve, meaning if it will induce attraction, bliss, pleasure, interest, meaning, happiness and on. So you see if you want to live a very self-actualized and happy life you must learn the way to communicate just right. Of course with an occasional mistake or an error we all must practice how to communicate our wants and needs effectively using our senses, and if you want to have the results you want be sure to; smell them, touch them, mostly listen to them, see them for who they are and if you are lucky taste them when they let you. Bon appétit. – Love Jewels

Government Tit

Let us continue on the topic of sucking government tit. Unemployment- is a temporary set back not a lottery. It is a get out of jail free card in a time of unexpected crisis. America granted us the amazing gift of collecting the get out of jail card for a year and a half, if that is not a blessing, I don't know what is. In the case of hardships in finding a job, in what head spinning, knee scraping, battle to the death competition does it take to 1.5 years to get hired at a job of your choice, willing that you still qualify for one if you didn't get fired from the last one. And the answer to your cynical query is, yes, I am quite bitter and burned. I am working in a place that I prefer not to for lots of different reasons, but I do it because I have to. Like the song goes, "oh there aint no rest for the wicked, money doesn't grow on trees, I got bills to pay, I got mouths to feed, there aint nothing in this world for free."(by Cage the Elephant)

With Love by J

Key To Success!

People my people… On the sad note today, why do some people feel entitled to public assistance and governing agencies to give you a hand up, year and year again? Public assistance was created for the working poor, hence the word “working” to let you get back on your feet, and not to be used as an alternative career avenue. The land of the free and the land of endless opportunities created a flawed system where it can be abused and manipulated by those who are… I’ll say it… LAZY!!! Generational poverty is now a stereotype. Young girls are having a baby after baby so that they can receive tanf, which is around $535 per baby a month, food stamps and other emergency resources that they fight tooth and nail over, so that they may spend the rest of their young lives on their back with “revolving door” boyfriends who eat up all their food stamps and impregnate them to keep the free money coming. I am so sad to say this; I do not feel for you girls and boys. I do not feel sorry for you. This is the life you wanted and created. No one is holding they key of success for ransom, no one is taking all the good jobs away from you, no one is holding you down. Life and everything you ever wanted is at your finger tips. The first key to happiness is willingness, willingness to fight for your freedom and your happiness. Here comes the cliché, the first step is the hardest and the most important, willingness to go forward to apply for a job, but wait there is a pleasant surprise, it’s only a two step process! The second step is repeating the first step over and over again, until you have reached blis!-J