Every person in the world thinks they are better than anyone they know in whole or in aspects. There is no man or woman that doesn’t love his or her own flesh and everything else for that matter. Perplexing to think that the judgment we reflect on others creates our self worth and a cozy feeling that we are near perfection. We might have giant pores, kancles, and a jungle full of pubis for hair, set all that aside we still bargain and compare our selves with others and argue that we are certainly better and this is why… blah.
I am a believer in things like watching the microwave or the stock market will telepathically will go in my favor. However I don’t believe that doing the whole downwards spiral comparison and comparing yourself who is less fortunate than you makes you better. Yes it should make you feel grateful, but certainly not superior. Who worships a measurement for success that certainly isn’t successful? In other words why would you measure yourself on the abstinence the lack or the have not’s? Per say even if you didn’t dwindle someone out of their money, what are you successful in? Not being a crook?
I think that by practicing equality and finding the best in people makes you the best human God intended you to be. The least, you will be avoided being judged and prosecuted and crucified for your mistakes. And everyone needs forgiveness. Last weekend I over heard a conversation and couldn’t help t keep listening. One of older men stated that he doesn’t believe in higher race or that money makes you of higher status. There are scum of the earth that come from any circle. And they began laughing about a side comment someone made in their group about that “one of his favorite people are whores.” The man who interrupted began to explain that women of that talent should be admired and revered. They give girlfriends and wives the reason to try to be the best they can be, at the least. In solitary situations or in relationship, that compound is a necessity. Knowing how to be a real woman with a man is a necessity but isn’t common knowledge. It takes talent and practice. I guess some see it as being a “whore” I see it as talented women who are over zealous opportunists.
And of course I am being silly and please take those terms loosely. I am not promoting prostitution and by using the title whore, I mean charming and flirtation coquettes who can get a man sprung. We all know that one of the best feelings is being admired and chased and especially by someone reputable. Oh those beautiful women that know how to walk and talk that steal all the attention from the Plain Janes’ of the worlds such as I...
I admire them. The girls with this instinct on how to take care of a man. This is coming from a big dork whos vision of flirtation is bodily harm. A woman of such caliber is looked up on by many including me for many reasons. One like that man said, they give wives an girlfriends a reason to try everyday be the best they can be and keep their men happy, as you want have done on to you of course. Second reason, reproduction, natural selection, awkward turtles of the worlds are less seen out of their normal habitats now a days. Three, they are talented and seasoned professionals. Girls with such talents not only know their way around men, but women and society as well. There is a saying that goes as such “you’ll attract more bees with honey.”
I don’t think this argument was a very good one but I think that it at least gave you something to think about. The next time you’re passing judgment think about your vises and how lucky you are to have what you have.
With Love Jewels,
September 29, 2010
September 28, 2010
My Date
So I recently had a sort of an official date, I guess you could call it. One of very few. It was quite different and some what awkward, but in a good sort of way. This man went out of his way to arrange plans and ignored taking my indecisive whining personal. Like any friend should. Many people would have taken offense to the fact and read it as ignorance or flakiness. He took charge like a real man should.
I hope to derive lessons from any experience. There were many, many I can’t talk about. Many that made me blush. Few that I’m still confused about. I learned many college terms mid some 20’s aged men use, such as “raw doggin.” Gross I know, yet entertaining. What is a 5th, and that top shelf liquor doesn’t give you hang-overs.
I also taught my date that to my experience most girls and women have not yet come to it or going be ok with the fact that men are kind of pervs and that’s the way they were built, period. Men are very visual and need to be stimulated very often. I on the other hand learned that fact, and made it part of my honors code.
Few of my married girlfriends and I have come to a conclusion about two things that are proven to make a man happy. There is a term we created which is H&H. I only have very little experience and only with the first H only. If you perform the H&H you are probably going to get your way with your man, be it that you want shopping money, attention, vegetable garden or something kinky in bed, whatever your trivial wish is, it is most likely going to get granted. A man is a simple creature. (speaking in generality) He is literal. He is low maintenance. I don’t mean to make him sound like a chia-pet, but he is a cake walk compared to the needs of a woman.
My handsome date agrees with this. If you are searching for away to make your man happy, whether it is selfless or with an agenda, you must perform the following two steps.
First H-Stands for Hungry. Feed your man. No one is grouchier than a man after a full day of work. Every man that coming home after work expects a hot meal. That’s a no brainer.
Second H-Stands for Horny. Knowing that sex is fuel of men, sex your husband up. Make it good but snappy, the fore-play is for you so save it until a little later.
After you had laid it on him good and made him feel like a King, ask him. Men know they are our Knights in shinning armor and they fight for that title.
Amongst other interesting lessons, I learned not to turn everyone down. You can never judge anyone based on first impressions, as you can never really know anyone until you’ve gotten to spend some time with him or her.
You will never find your Love Mate if you never take the time to get to know someone. How do you get to the Carnegie hall? Practice, practice, practice, my conservative damsels.
Love Jewels
I hope to derive lessons from any experience. There were many, many I can’t talk about. Many that made me blush. Few that I’m still confused about. I learned many college terms mid some 20’s aged men use, such as “raw doggin.” Gross I know, yet entertaining. What is a 5th, and that top shelf liquor doesn’t give you hang-overs.
I also taught my date that to my experience most girls and women have not yet come to it or going be ok with the fact that men are kind of pervs and that’s the way they were built, period. Men are very visual and need to be stimulated very often. I on the other hand learned that fact, and made it part of my honors code.
Few of my married girlfriends and I have come to a conclusion about two things that are proven to make a man happy. There is a term we created which is H&H. I only have very little experience and only with the first H only. If you perform the H&H you are probably going to get your way with your man, be it that you want shopping money, attention, vegetable garden or something kinky in bed, whatever your trivial wish is, it is most likely going to get granted. A man is a simple creature. (speaking in generality) He is literal. He is low maintenance. I don’t mean to make him sound like a chia-pet, but he is a cake walk compared to the needs of a woman.
My handsome date agrees with this. If you are searching for away to make your man happy, whether it is selfless or with an agenda, you must perform the following two steps.
First H-Stands for Hungry. Feed your man. No one is grouchier than a man after a full day of work. Every man that coming home after work expects a hot meal. That’s a no brainer.
Second H-Stands for Horny. Knowing that sex is fuel of men, sex your husband up. Make it good but snappy, the fore-play is for you so save it until a little later.
After you had laid it on him good and made him feel like a King, ask him. Men know they are our Knights in shinning armor and they fight for that title.
Amongst other interesting lessons, I learned not to turn everyone down. You can never judge anyone based on first impressions, as you can never really know anyone until you’ve gotten to spend some time with him or her.
You will never find your Love Mate if you never take the time to get to know someone. How do you get to the Carnegie hall? Practice, practice, practice, my conservative damsels.
Love Jewels
September 15, 2010
I have my pride! (ish)
So today’s lesson is more of a question than a statement. It is safe to say that everyone has had a moment as mine, and perhaps a similar character in their tale. A tale of two in which you, or I sadly, become the villain, the antagonist and the damsel who you’ve wronged and left with out an apology or scion you’ve broken off yourself to cover the wound you and I have caused. This tale is a sort of a romantic one, but perhaps this one will be with out a happy ending, to soon to speak.
It is a simple case. This matter brings great joy to me as I have come up with the words for my vain mistake, but a bit sad that I haven’t found the chutzpah to follow through to the end, so my tale is yet to be complete. In any event I have wronged my damsel; my damsel was not completely with out fault and in fact strung me along. However, no one deserves to be ignored, felt unwanted, unloved and mistreated on the count of ones feeling of incomplete.
Resentment will grow if you don’t apologize for stepping out or holding out on your loved one. Believe me, your loved one will always know, they are always waiting on you to do the right thing and come forward. It’s like those 12 steps to sobriety, first of which is admitting. Admit it, that you’ve screwed up! I admit that I shouldn’t have mistreated my damsel a pure dream, and cut him out of my life as if he were cancer.
Revaluate your lack and your contribution in your relationship. If you ignore your heart and wait on your half because of your sense of entitlement (hint) to apologize first, you are condemning your own self and you will be the reason for your broken link. In my situation day after D day, or more or less 5 months in, I threw the line. Happily, this line may salvage a friendship, but nothing more. I was scared, and it took me that long to understand why I was so wrong. Five months I’ve wasted contemplating on an apology that was rightfully owed. Each time that I began to find the words to apologize I always though of the counter reply and expected to be turned down, and couldn’t accept that. I couldn’t accept the idea that I may be told that I WAS wrong and my apology is too late. By the time I discarded and pushed all silly ideas away that meant I would be shut down, I understood that all this time I was simply battling my ego. I was too PROUD. I was too proud to show simple gesture of humility.
I lost something because I of pride, a sense of equality and superiority. What sense is there in that? What makes one person better then another? On a continuum or complete happiness where would one be if one boasted and another humbled himself? What difference would it make to you if your “what ifs” stayed “what ifs?” I don’t know that I relayed this the way I wanted to and I don’t know if I put a smile on your face, as it what I intended. As you see it is all silly and it’s all foolish, better to humble and perhaps gain what you have once lost rather then gain a complex by always pondering on what you will loose if you apologize?
Love Jewels
It is a simple case. This matter brings great joy to me as I have come up with the words for my vain mistake, but a bit sad that I haven’t found the chutzpah to follow through to the end, so my tale is yet to be complete. In any event I have wronged my damsel; my damsel was not completely with out fault and in fact strung me along. However, no one deserves to be ignored, felt unwanted, unloved and mistreated on the count of ones feeling of incomplete.
Resentment will grow if you don’t apologize for stepping out or holding out on your loved one. Believe me, your loved one will always know, they are always waiting on you to do the right thing and come forward. It’s like those 12 steps to sobriety, first of which is admitting. Admit it, that you’ve screwed up! I admit that I shouldn’t have mistreated my damsel a pure dream, and cut him out of my life as if he were cancer.
Revaluate your lack and your contribution in your relationship. If you ignore your heart and wait on your half because of your sense of entitlement (hint) to apologize first, you are condemning your own self and you will be the reason for your broken link. In my situation day after D day, or more or less 5 months in, I threw the line. Happily, this line may salvage a friendship, but nothing more. I was scared, and it took me that long to understand why I was so wrong. Five months I’ve wasted contemplating on an apology that was rightfully owed. Each time that I began to find the words to apologize I always though of the counter reply and expected to be turned down, and couldn’t accept that. I couldn’t accept the idea that I may be told that I WAS wrong and my apology is too late. By the time I discarded and pushed all silly ideas away that meant I would be shut down, I understood that all this time I was simply battling my ego. I was too PROUD. I was too proud to show simple gesture of humility.
I lost something because I of pride, a sense of equality and superiority. What sense is there in that? What makes one person better then another? On a continuum or complete happiness where would one be if one boasted and another humbled himself? What difference would it make to you if your “what ifs” stayed “what ifs?” I don’t know that I relayed this the way I wanted to and I don’t know if I put a smile on your face, as it what I intended. As you see it is all silly and it’s all foolish, better to humble and perhaps gain what you have once lost rather then gain a complex by always pondering on what you will loose if you apologize?
Love Jewels
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